A client recently shared with me what she has been reciting to herself to help her maintain peace and balance in her life. It was the Ho’oponopono Mantra:
I love you.
I am sorry.
Please forgive me.
Immediately I saw a connection to why this is a healing and helpful mantra to repeat. Included in its words are 3 of the highest vibrations or emotions that we can experience: LOVE, FORGIVENESS, & GRATITUDE.
With further study about this Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness I wanted to share with you more of the story of this word and the practice behind it.
The Hawaiian Dictionary defines Ho’oponopono as “mental cleansing: family conferences in which relationships were set right through prayer, discussion, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness.” When we define the root word ponopono we learn it means “to put to rights; to put in order or shape, correct, revise, adjust, amend, regulate, arrange, rectify, tidy up, make orderly or neat.” The ho’o is the prefix that changes the noun of ponopono into a verb.
This is a practice used in Hawaii and through out the South Pacific that has spread across the world. The purpose of this practice was to identify the action, thought or subconscious belief that was creating disharmony, with the intent to restore balance to that person and to the family unit. The process encouraged the offender to go within and take responsibility for their part in the disharmony. “If one would take complete responsibility for one’s life, then everything one sees, hears, tastes, touches, or in any way experiences would be one’s responsibility because it is in one’s life.” (Vitale, Len, p. 22)
The traditional process would go as follows:
Usually the most senior member of the family conducts it. He or she gathers the family together. If the family is unable to work through a problem, they turn to a respected outsider. The process begins with prayer. A statement of the problem is made, and the transgression discussed. Family members are expected to work problems through and cooperate, not “hold fast to the fault.” One or more periods of silence may be taken for reflection on the entanglement of emotions and injuries. Everyone’s feelings are acknowledged. Then confession, repentance and forgiveness take place. Everyone releases (kala) each other, letting go. They cut off the past (ʻoki), and together they close the event with a ceremonial feast, called pani, which often included eating limu kala or kala seaweed, symbolic of the release. (Pukui, Haertig, Lee p. 60-80)
Application of the Ho’oponopono can be done in the reciting of the Mantra, as well as the drinking of blue solar water. This is tap water poured into a blue glass bottle and set in the sun for an hour or more. This technique has been described in the best-selling book Zero Limits by Joe Vitale and Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. The water can be used as a tool to allow one to “transmute memories replaying problems in the subconscious mind and help the body to ‘let go & let God’. My two cents to the possible benefits of this, I would add that the Sun itself is the source of light and life on our earth. We are beings made up of 70% water. Blue is the color of self expression, trust and healing. When all these combine, we come to a place of being at-one-ness and in harmony with ourselves and all that surrounds us.
With this in mind, I made a simple poster for you to download and use as you would like with the Ho’oponopono Mantra and a blue bottle.
My final thoughts would be to approach life and relationships beginning always with love, enduring with gratitude, holding on to a whole lot of humility and offering even more forgiveness through it all.
Love and Light,